Many Are Hurting but This Didn’t Happen Overnight

Many people in our country are hurting and confused for many different reasons that we can’t all really seem to agree on, but if we all really speak honestly I think we could agree that it didn’t happen overnight. Many of us are watching videos and reading post both from news outlets and all of our own individual opinions and perspectives thinking it’s about the loss of black lives and police lives. While that is true this didn’t happen overnight. Don’t get me wrong this is wrong and sad and our hearts are hurting for these families on every side of this.

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I find myself asking why? There has to be a better way. I believe if you do something wrong to break the law you should absolutely be punished for it but at what point is the decision made that you need to die at the hands of someone who is meant to bring justice the correct way. None of this happened overnight. Unfortunately, recent events have made our country realize we’ve reached our boiling point.

What Are We Doing Wrong

I do not speak for all people. I do not speak for all black people. I do not speak for all women. I speak for me from my experiences. I think part of the issue is when we all take to social media (A) we may see or read something and be easily manipulated to feel a certain way without any further thought/ investigation. (B) assume that if a black person makes a post about being sad about the death of another black man then they hate the police or if a white person makes a post about supporting the police that they are racist.

It didn’t happen overnight!

The problem is so much deeper. I personally as an African-American know what the past history is and I feel I can move on and live in the now. The problem is that while things have changed nothing has changed. You even say the word racism and people get unbelievably uncomfortable. It is an uncomfortable topic and people like to avoid it pretend they don’t see it pretend it’s not real and that is foolish. The more we have a constructive conversation about it the more things can begin to change. I am married to a white man. I grew up with many white people you would not believe some of the ridiculous this people say. ” I am genuinely shocked when I meet a nice black person but I’m not racist I’m a Christian”, “you are really pretty for a black girl”, “you are so well spoken”, “you don’t act black” I could seriously go on and on but you get the point. This is the problem! It didn’t happen overnight. We tear each other down constantly people from all backgrounds  instead of standing together and celebrating our differences.

Look At My Own Life

I am married to a white man. I grew up with many white people you would not believe some of the ridiculous this people say. ” I am genuinely shocked when I meet a nice black person but I’m not racist I’m a Christian”, “you are really pretty for a black girl”, “you are so well spoken”, “you don’t act black” I could seriously go on and on but you get the point. This is the problem! It didn’t happen overnight. We tear each other down constantly people from all backgrounds  instead of standing together and celebrating our differences.

I am in no way against police

but it’s scary to be black in America

I am in no way against police. I am against people who do the wrong thing people who have hatred in their hearts and I think people don’t understand we don’t hate the police but it’s scary to be black in America and not know how you will be treated by someone if they hate black people add someone who may have that hatred that is in a position of power and authority how would you feel? That doesn’t mean you are all bad! just like All black people are not criminals and All white people are not racist we have to stop this and stand up to the real issue. It’s a matter of heart and who we are not what we do for a living or what we look like on the outside! I have had children ask me why I’m brown I’ve had children tell me they are scared if they see a large black man but why parents why aren’t we teaching them? This is not ok!

I Feel x, but God …

I’ve been feeling really hopeless and wanting to just give up thinking it will never end. the black on black crime the people in authority abusing power the uneducated comments made by people who try to ignore race by saying I don’t see color. See it all day long its silly to say you don’t. My husband is white I know that he’s white he knows that I’m black and if we have children they will know about their history from both sides.

We Want Simple Things

Our goal is simply to produce amazing people with amazing character. I can honestly tell you not a day in my marriage has gone by where an issue was because he is white and I am black we have the same issues any married couple would and that’s because when we look at each other we see two individual sinners who aren’t perfect but by the grace of GOD love each other. Jesus comes and meets us right where we are no perfection needed and our country keeps missing that lesson we don’t love each other we don’t accept each other we don’t expect better from each other and so things keep getting worse we are better than this we have to do better than this we are called to LOVE!

EVERY person in this world is a different person give each other the respect of finding out who someone is before you judge them based on how they look.

What About Black Lives Matter?

Black lives matter. I keep seeing this associated with comments from people who are upset about the movement and the thing is to me it means equality that’s all I want as a black woman in America is to be equal to not be treated poorly or judged simply on the color of my skin my life matters just as much as the next. So to see people getting upset over those words kills me on the inside it hurts. Who wouldn’t want that I’ve been followed in stores while shopping simply because of my skin color! It has to stop I am me; I act like me, and I am proud to be black! None of this happened overnight! do you know what its like to have a white friend tell you that their parents would rather them be with a guy that beats them than a black guy? This about that.

Let that sink in. It didn’t happen overnight! Stop raising your children with this hate it is sick. I know this won’t go away overnight because it didn’t happen overnight and I do not want to downplay the fact that anyone lost their life. However, I will not give up on doing my part and from now on using my voice and my life and my relationship with Christ against things in this world that are wrong.

To Sum, It Up

Killing is not ok. It is not ok to kill each other. It is not ok for police to kill if there are other options available. It is not ok to kill police. I understand we are frustrated and emotions are high but there is a better way! I realize many of you are sick of hearing about it sick of talking about it but that’s the only way to truly end racism. Remember just because something doesn’t affect you and your daily life doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. It’s not ok that we can talk about literally ANY subject online but the moment race is brought up everyone freaks out.  Support your police because they have a hard job and they need to be appreciated and encouraged! support your neighbor because black people in America still have it hard. Support your neighbor because we are all human and all want to feel loved and equal.

“I give you a new command: Love each other as I have loved you.” John 13:34

“The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do” Steve Jobs

“We must learn to live together as brothers or perish as fools” Martin Luther King Jr.

I’m praying for our country for the hearts of the people in this country and my own as it is so heavy after all that has happened enough is enough please pray with me. #bethechange

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